Recently I have been looking at Twitter a bit more and came across a tweet that was posted by a Psychology account that I follow and it was discussing Misophonia. It mentioned how most people don’t even realize there is such a thing until they read research or articles about the condition. So I thought I’d share my experience and opinion concerning the condition. At first, I did know that I had issues with annoying noises, but never knew there was a name for this kind of thing; nor that it was something other than my anxiety or depression. It was actually in a Psychology course that I was taking at my University, that I learned about this new Psychological condition. Now for those who do not know what this condition is….You may not even realize that you may also have this condition as well.
Now for those of you that do not know what Misophonia is…it is a psychological condition where you are easily annoyed or angered about small things around you. This may include the basic examples such as; nails on a chalkboard, someone who chews their food loudly (even if they mouths are shut), or when they are breathing loud enough you can hear them. The symptoms are pretty simple to know if you have this condition or not. When you are in a situation where something is irritating you; many people feel rage, anger, hatred or in severe cases…almost suicidal.
The sad thing about this condition is that most women suffer from this, and there is nothing really to “treat” or “cure” the condition. Most psychologists don’t even know how or why people get this condition in the first place, but they do know it has nothing to do with your ears. Many think that it concerns the parts of the mental and physical areas of the body, where your trigger responses become almost automatic to these annoying noises. In other words, when you hear or feel these irritating noises your body starts to automatically respond to these situations, in order to protect yourself. While they do not know much about the condition, they do know that most women have different “triggers” or “irritations” that can make them angry, annoyed or want to leave the room.
In my experience with this, I had always assumed that it was my anxiety or depression that was causing this “irritation” when someone would shake their leg, breathe heavily or chew, or whatever it may be. For me, it wasn’t just one issue that made me irritated or annoyed with people. It was a multitude of things. My mom or sister would be shaking their leg because they were nervous or it was just a habit. They didn’t do it on purpose to piss me off or irritate me and I knew that, but I still couldn’t shake the feeling of being irritated though until they stopped or I left the room.
Another irritation for me is whenever I am sitting down for dinner either with family or friends, and there always seems to be someone who inevitably chews really loud. These people, to me, when I’m eating with them, are the worst kind of eaters. You can have the people who chew with their mouths open, which we all know is inappropriate and most mothers would be ashamed of their children eating like that; or the ones that chew loud enough even if their mouths are shut. Now I have no clue how someone can chew with their mouths closed and still be loud, but I try to ignore it. Same way when someone is breathing really heavy and most of them don’t even realize it. It’s even worse when I’m trying to focus on a test, studying or trying to sleep. I must have peace and quiet when I’m doing any of those things, which for me needs a lot of concentration to perform those tasks.
You may feel the same way that I do when I am around those kinds of noises, but if you don’t…that’s great!!! It can be rough trying to be a social butterfly, yet when someone you are with does something that makes an annoying sound you want to place your hand on their leg or show them just how loud and obnoxious they really are. Personally, I haven’t tried any of those to my friends, but I have thought of it more times than I’d like to admit. In many situations, I just try to ignore the sounds, leave the room for a bit or try to focus on something else. But if you do feel the same way, know that again, you aren’t alone in having this condition. The majority of women have this, and most don’t even realize it! It’s another amazing characteristic or skill that women have, and can use to their benefit, I think.
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