Since this week is Thanksgiving week for most of us, and usually on Facebook and Twitter users will have the “Grateful Challenge”, I thought I would share some of the things I’m grateful for along with my family traditions for the holiday.
It has been a tradition for the past 10 or so years, ever since we stopped going to Thanksgiving with our other relatives. Usually, my family, every year has family members, close friends and anyone that needs a place to go during Thanksgiving, over to share a meal with us. We provide the Turkey, Ham and rolls typically, while everyone else is asked to bring appetizers, side dishes or desserts with them. We ask people to invite whoever doesn’t have a place to go, to bring the more the merrier. We’ve even had international students from my college for the past several years. We were delighted to have them and give them a sense of family and friends during the holidays.
Now as for the things I am grateful for, which I hope you will think about the things you are grateful for as well or write them done and share them with your own family.
Things that I’m grateful…..
- I’m grateful for the opportunity to share my life and experiences through my personal Facebook and on here. Not many people get to tell their story about their sexual assault or their story in general, as many can’t put it into words or healed enough to be open about it. Thankfully, I have a voice and the opportunities to share these with you and my friends and family.
- I’m grateful for the opportunity to learn and continue to learn through my academics, volunteer work, and extracurriculars that I’ve taken part in. For those skills and experiences that I’ve been apart of helps me continue to educate myself on various subjects.
- I’m grateful for my family and their support. They’ve always been there when I need them. They say what I need to hear and while I may not agree, they know I appreciate their concern.
- I’m grateful as well for my three nephews, that my sister and brother-in-law brought into this world. They are closer to my age than my siblings are, which is nice to have someone younger around to keep me busy and makes me feel like I am one of their protectors in a way. They bring so much light into my families life. They are always doing something crazy or funny, and are so kind yet different in their own way. I’ve enjoyed every moment of them since they were born, and I miss this every day now that they are farther away. Thankfully, I get to see them tomorrow evening for almost a full week.
- I’m grateful for my mom and dad. As much as we butt heads sometimes, I do appreciate everything they do whether its fixing my dang car (it’s had so many issues in the past year), or making sure the bills are paid so I have a roof over my head and food in my stomach. I know me and siblings didn’t say it enough when we were younger, but we do appreciate everything you do mom and dad. I know my mom has always strived to be a better parent then she had growing up, one that is loving and supporting – and she’s done that and more. She’s taught us to be the people we are today, and that everyone has their own issues and stories and we aren’t the only ones with problems. My dad, while my siblings didn’t get to spend time with him when they were younger, I was lucky enough to get the opportunity to spend time with him. When I was younger, I would have him play board games with me like Pretty Pretty Princess, and even wear the crown when it was his turn. Even now, he will still drive my car around with Tinkerbell colors in my car and all my bumper stickers about Abortion, “I Am One” and so on. He has never cared about whether or not he looked funny while doing it, he just did it because he cares about me. I wish my siblings could have had the same opportunity, but I know he is working on it now.
- I’m grateful for my siblings as well. They have been my other huge supporters next to my parents throughout my journey after my sexual assault and healing process. My mom and sister were there when I told them what had happened, they were outside in the waiting room when I was having the abortion done and drove all the way to KC and back in the same day with me. My sister had been through the same situation where she had been raped by someone from the same high school, and was treated horribly after the fact by Administration and her rapist. She was someone I could talk to about how it felt to go back and see him every day, and all the triggers and feelings after it was all over with. She was the first person that I knew I could talk to next my therapist and mom, but she had been through it which made it easier to discuss with her. My brother and brother in law were both supporters when it came to ruining his life, which they didn’t but they always made sure I was doing alright. My brother has helped with College Algebra throughout my College years, and even when we would both get pissed off we would take a break until we were ready to start again. So thanks for dealing with my crying and angry fits. Also thank you for getting into Comic Con and Doctor Who, which has been a great show to watch and have something to talk about outside of family stuff.
I know that has been a rather long post, so thank you for reading this far. If I didn’t mention how I grateful I am for you in my life, don’t think I don’t appreciate you…it’d just be 10x times this long. Do you have any family traditions with your family during Thanksgiving holidays? Or maybe you celebrate another holiday altogether, if so please share. I would love to hear what you do during the holidays. If you are taking part in Thanksgiving, I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and hopefully you will take the time to think about what you are grateful for and share it with your loved ones. Have a great Monday evening and Thanksgiving!!!
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